Thursday, 28 April 2011

Family problems caused by husband’s brother

I have a brother in law who is always at my house on the phone with my husband or pulling my husband to go out with him he can't seem to do anything without him, its gotten to the point where I cant stand to see him anymore. I feel he puts thoughts into my husbands head and he takes him away from his responsibilities to me and our three sons we have an active life with the three boys and I always get the short end I love to do things for them all but sometimes I'd like my husband to be with us but usually this means his brother will tag along or he'll constantly call untill he reaches us. I've had major fights with my husband because he thinks its ok to say no to me because I will understand and forgive him but his brother will pout for a long time. I think he should be more committed to us and not his brother if he wants us to survive as a family. As a muslim women, am I asking for to much or does his brothers feelings come first?.

Praise be to Allaah.


The husband has to understand that Allaah has
enjoined upon him to take care of his children, to bring them up properly and to look after their affairs. He has also enjoined upon him to treat
his wife in a good and kind manner. Allaah will question him about every shortcoming with regard to these duties on the Day of Resurrection. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and
your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from
executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”

[al-Tahreem 66:6] 

“and live with them [women] honourably”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19] 


The husband should not allow into his life
anything that may come between him and his taking care of his family, such as working continually, or allowing friends or relatives to take all
his time or interfere in his family’s affairs. 

Nowadays the Muslim cannot find enough time
to do all the things that Allaah has enjoined upon him, so how can he waste his time with other things at the expense of these duties? 


The wife should not try to come between her
husband and his family. She should not complain about him visiting them or their visiting him, unless he is giving that priority over the duties
that Allaah has enjoined upon him. 

The father should not give anyone priority
over his children, whether that is his brother or any other relative. Hence there is no need to cause a split and break the family ties between
your husband and his brother, or between the children and their paternal uncle, because that will have a far-reaching effect on their
relationships with other people and with their relatives. 


We advise you to be kind and gentle towards your husband, and to show him that you have nothing against his relationship with his brother. Do not
cause your children to dislike him. 

If you see any shortcoming on your husband’s
part with regard to his shar’i duties towards you, then denounce that and remind him in a manner that is better, without being too harsh. You can
do that by hinting rather than stating it bluntly, unless there is a need for that.  

We have seen similar cases in some families
where the wife had another member of her family staying with them for some reason.  So we think that the husband’s treatment of his family will
get better if he sees his wife treating his family in a better manner. 

And Allaah knows best.

From Quran Blog 

And important note that we want to discuss and share with you it is about Quran reading and doing Quran recitation online to understand it, Ramadan is the month when the beautiful the Holy Quran has been revealed.  A miracle by the creator of the worlds, Allah (SWT)  Should we not glorify him by reading quran the gift he has sent down for us and learn Arabic Quran by heart  to feel the power of it and we as Muslim should try to learn quran with translation to understand it  wile we do Quran memorization and let our heart fill will tears of glory and wash away our sins in the month of Ramadan many people teach quran  and we should participate in teaching quran as much as we could because it is the noble cause to spread the word of Allah and the quran tutor will get the reword in the day of judgment “Will they not meditate on the Quran, or are there locks on the hearts”, Quran for kids , Surah Muhammad, Verse 24. Here is an interesting tajweed quran reciter where you can listen to quran from top Koran reciters and read the Koran with different translation and plz link to it and share it to promote islam

End from holy Quran reciter blog

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