What are the rights of wife, children on the man.
1 – The wife’s rights:
These have been discussed in detail in the
answer to question no. 10680
2 – The children’s rights.
Allaah has given children rights over their
parents just as the parents have rights over their children.
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: “Allaah
has called them abraar (righteous) because they honoured (barru) their fathers and children. Just as your father has rights over
you, so too your child has rights over you.
Al-Adab al-Mufrad,
94.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, according to a hadeeth narrated by ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar, “… and
your child has rights over you.” Muslim, 1159.
The child’s rights over their children
include some that come even before the child is born, for example:
1 – Choosing a righteous wife to be a
righteous mother.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah
be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth,
her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Marry the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may
you prosper).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4802; Muslim, 1466).
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Ghani al-Dahlawi said: Choose
from among women those who are religiously committed and righteous, and who are of good descent, for if a woman is of illegitimate descent, this
bad characteristic may be passed to her children. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“The adulterer —
fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer —
fornicater or a Mushrik”
[al-Noor 24:3]
Rather Islam recommends compatibility for the purpose of harmony and to avoid a person being shamed if he marries into a family that is not
compatible.
Sharh Sunan Ibn Maajah,
1/141
Rights after the child is born:
1 – It is Sunnah to do tahneek for the
child when he is born:
It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may
Allaah be pleased with him) said: The son of Abu Talhah was sick. Abu Talhah went out and the child died, and when Abu Talhah returned he said,
“What happened to my son?” Umm Sulaym (his wife) said, ‘He is quieter than he was.” Then she brought him his dinner and he ate, then he had
marital relations with her, and when he finished she said, “They buried the child.” The following morning, Abu Talhah went to the Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and told him what had happened. He said, “Did you have marital relations last night?” He
said, “Yes.” He said, “O Allaah, bless them.” She later gave birth to a boy. Abu Talhah said to me, “Keep him until I bring him to the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).” He brought him to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and I sent some
dates with him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) took him and said, “Is there anything with him?” They said, “Yes,
some dates.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) took some and chewed it, then he took some from his mouth and put it in
the child’s mouth (tahneek), and named him ‘Abd-Allaah.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5153; Muslim, 2144
Al-Nawawi said:
The scholars are agreed that it is mustahabb
to do tahneek with dates for the child when he is born; if that is not possible then to use some similar kind of sweet. The dates should be
chewed until they become soft enough to be swallowed, then the child’s mouth should be opened and a little of the dates put in his mouth.
Sharh al-Nawawi ‘ala Muslim,
14/122-123
2 – The child should be given a good name,
such as ‘Abd-Allaah or ‘Abd al-Rahmaan.
It was narrated from Naafi’ that Ibn ‘Umar
said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most beloved of your names to Allaah are ‘Abd-Allaah and
‘Abd al-Rahmaan.”
(Narrated by Muslim, 2132)
It is mustahabb to give the child a Prophet’s
name:
It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik said:
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A child was born to me last night and I called him by the name of
my father Ibraaheem.”
Narrated by Muslim, 2315
It is mustahabb to name the child on the
seventh day, but there is nothing wrong with naming him on the day of his birth, because of the hadeeth quoted above.
It was narrated from Samurah ibn Jundub that
the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every child is in pledge for his ‘aqeeqah which should be
slaughtered for him on the seventh day, his head should be shaved and he should be named.
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2838; classed as
saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4541
Ibn al-Qayyim said:
The purpose of naming is to define the thing named, because if there is something whose name is unknown it is difficult to refer to it. So it is
permissible to name him (the child) on the day he is born, and it is permissible to delay the naming until the third day, or until the day of the
‘aqeeqah, or before or after that. The matter is broad in scope.”
Tuhfat al-Mawlood,
p. 111
3 – It is Sunnah to shave the child’s head on
the seventh day and to give the weight of the hair in silver in charity.
It was narrated that ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib
said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) slaughtered a sheep as the ‘aqeeqah for al-Hasan, and he said, “O
Faatimah, shave his head and give the weight of his hair in silver in charity.” So she weighed it and its weight was a dirham or part of a
dirham.
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1519; classed as
hasan by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1226.
4
– It is mustahabb for the father to do the ‘aqeeqah, as stated in the hadeeth quoted above, “Every child is in pledge for his ‘aqeeqah.”
Two sheep should be sacrificed for a boy and
one for a girl.
It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded them (to sacrifice) two similar sheep for a boy and one for a girl.
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1513; Saheeh al-Tirmidhi,
1221; Abu Dawood, 2834; al-Nasaa’i, 4212; Ibn Maajah, 3163
5 – Circumcision
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The fitrah is five things, or five things are part of the fitrah:
circumcision, shaving the pubic hairs, plucking the armpit hairs, clipping the nails and trimming the moustache.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5550; Muslim, 257
The child’s rights with regard to education
and upbringing:
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah
be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and is
responsible for his flock. The ruler who is in charge of people is a shepherd and is responsible for them. The man is the shepherd of his
household and is responsible for them. The woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and child and is responsible for them. The slave is the
shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2416; Muslim, 1829.
So parents must take care of teaching their
children the duties of Islam and other virtues that are recommended in sharee’ah, and worldly matters that they need in order to live a decent
life in this world.
The man should start by teaching them the
most important things, then the next most important. So he starts by teaching them correct ‘aqeedah, free from shirk and bid’ah. Then he teaches
them the acts of worship, especially prayer. Then he teaches them and trains them in good manners and characteristics, and everything that is
good.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And (remember) when Luqmaan said to his
son when he was advising him: “O my son! Join not in worship others with Allaah. Verily, joining others in worship with Allaah is a great Zulm
(wrong) indeed”
[Luqmaan 31:13]
It was narrated from ‘Abd al-Malik ibn al-Rabee’
ibn Sabrah from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach the
child to pray when he is seven years old, and smack him if he does not pray when he is ten.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 407; Abu Dawood,
494. Classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4025
It was narrated that al-Rubayyi’ bint
Mu’awwidh said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent word on the morning of Ashoora’ to the areas where the Ansaar
lived (on the outskirts of Madeenah), saying: Whoever did not fast this morning, let him not eat for the rest of the day, and whoever started
fasting this morning, let him complete his fast. She said: We used to observe this fast after that, and we used to make our children fast and make
them toys of wool; if one of them cried for food we would give him that toy until it was time to break the fast.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1859; Muslim, 1136
It was narrated that al-Saa’ib ibn Yazeed
said: I was taken for Hajj with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when I was seven years old.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1759
Training in good manners and
characteristics:
Every father and mother should train their
children in praiseworthy characteristics and good manners, whether towards Allaah, His Prophet the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him), towards their Qur’aan and ummah, and with everyone whom they know and who has rights over them. They should not behave
badly with those whom they mix with, their neighbours or their friends.
Al-Nawawi said:
The father must discipline his child and
teach him what he needs to know of religious duties. This teaching is obligatory upon the father and all those in charge of children before the
child reaches the age of adolescence. This was stated by al-Shaafa’i and his companions. Al-Shaafa’i and his companions said: This teaching is
also obligatory upon the mother, if there is no father, because it is part of the child’s upbringing and they have a share of that and the wages
for this teaching may be taken from the child’s own wealth. If the child has no wealth then the one who is obliged to spend on him may spend on
his education, because it is one of the things that he needs. And Allaah knows best.
Sharh al-Nawawi ‘ala Saheeh Muslim,
8/44
The father should bring them up with good manners in all things, eating, drinking, dressing, sleeping, going out of the house, entering the house,
riding in vehicles, etc, and in all their affairs. He should instill in them the attributes of a good man, such as love of sacrifice, putting
others first, helping others, chivalry and generosity. He should keep them away from evil characteristics such as cowardice, stinginess, lack of
chivalry, lack of ambition, etc.
Al-Manaawi said:
“Just as your parents have rights over you, so too your child has rights over you, rather many rights, such as teaching them the individual
obligations, teaching them Islamic manners, giving them gifts equally, whether that is a gift, a waqf, or other gift. If preference is shown with
no reason, that is regarded as invalid by some of the scholars and as makrooh by others.
Fayd al-Qadeer,
2/574
He must also protect his sons and daughters
from everything that may bring them close to the Fire. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves
and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from
executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”
[al-Tahreem 66:6]
al-Qurtubi said:
al-Hasan commented on this verse by saying,
Command them and forbid them. One of the scholars said: (The phrase) Ward off (or protect) yourselves includes children, because the child is part
of him, as it says in the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “…nor on yourselves, if you eat from your houses…” [al-Noor
24:61], where the various relatives are not mentioned individually. So he should teach him what is halaal and what is
haraam, and make him avoid sin, and teach him other rulings.
Tafseer al-Qurtubi,
18/194-195.
Spending:
This is one of the father’s obligations towards his children; it is not permissible for him to fall short in that or to neglect this matter,
rather he is obliged to do this duty in the fullest sense.
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr
(may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is sufficient sin for a
man if he neglects those on whom he is obliged to spend.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 1692; classed as
sahan by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4481.
Another of the greatest rights is to give the child a good upbringing and take good care of him or her – especially in the case of girls. The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged this righteous deed.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah the wife of
the Prophet (S) said: A woman came to me with two daughters and asked me for food, and I could not find anything except one date which I gave to
her. She shared it between her two daughters, then she got up and went out. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came in
and I told him what had happened. He said: “Whoever is in charge of any of these girls and treats them well, they will be a shield for him against
the Fire.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5649; Muslim, 2629
Another important matter which is one of the
rights of children to which attention must be paid, is treating children fairly. This right was referred to by the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) in the saheeh hadeeth: “Fear Allaah and treat your children fairly.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2447; Muslim,
1623). It is not permissible to show preference to females over males, just as it is not permissible to show preference to males over females. If
the father makes this mistake and shows preference to some of his children over others, and does not treat them fairly, this will lead to many
evils, such as:
The harm that befalls the father himself, for
the children whom he denies or deprives will grow up to hate him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) referred to this in
the hadeeth narrated by Muslim (1623) when he said to the father of al-Nu’maan, “Would you like them to honour you equally?” He said, “Yes.” In
other words, if you want them all to honour you equally, then be fair in giving gifts to them.
Another evil consequence is the children
hating one another, and stoking the flames of hatred and enmity between them.
And Allaah knows best.
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